Whether you’ve decided to end things with an SO, a friend, or your pretend hubby Chris Pratt (his late-night motorbike escapades with the local raptors are becoming a real issue), it’s safe to say that the “I’ve got to call it quits” convo could suck in a big way. But while pulling away from a friend is never going to be easy or painless, @thelatestkate‘s  insightful advice will help you navigate the breakup and come out feeling better about yourself and your relationships. Click through to read her tips, and remember: if it hurts, that’s because it matters.

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